So often I hear people say things like “why can’t my blog be as successful as theirs?” or “I can’t make money from my blog because my blog doesn’t look like X, Y and Z”, and even worse “I wish my blog did as well as A, B or C”. Listen up, guys! STOP! Like, seriously! Stop right now with this nonsense. Are you seriously going to beat yourself up, or even quit, because you feel like your blog is ‘inferior’ to that of other bloggers in your niche? Let me get real here for a second or two. Please just bear with me for a moment.
I am getting sick and tired of receiving emails in my inbox reading something along the lines of:
“I’ve tried everything you have mentioned in post XYZ, but I still feel like my blog is not good enough. So many others in my niche are way more successful than I am and I am not sure why I even try this blogging thing anymore!”
Don’t get me wrong, I love receiving emails from you guys, but these “why can’t I be like others” emails are driving me insane! Because you can be (read: ARE) BETTER than others. How? By not comparing yourself to them anymore! It’s BS that we determine the success of our blogs according to the success of others. “Person A has 10K followers on Twitter and gets 100K unique views per month, and I only have 900 followers and get 3000 views per month. My blog is not good enough.” Stop that pathetic mind set right now!
And that is exactly why I am writing today’s post! To empower you on your blogging journey! And to tell you exactly why comparing yourself to other bloggers is damaging your blog and your brand!
Comparing yourself to other bloggers is damaging to your sense of self.
Science proved that comparing yourself to others breed feelings of envy, low self-confidence, and depression. My question is this: why are we even allowing ourselves to reach that negative space by comparing ourselves to others? Breeding these negative feelings about your blog, not only makes you feel depressed about your blog, but it flows over into your everyday life and transfers these negative thoughts and feelings to your daily life! Theodore Roosevelt once said: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” I cannot find a better saying online proving just how detrimental comparing yourself to others is! I get it, it’s a trap that we all fall into at some stage. Whenever a fellow blogger or friend tells you just how good things are going with their blog or business, you cannot help but feel a little depressed and negative about your own blog and brand. Which in turns changes your view of life and brings me back to that sad circle of depression and negativity! Ain’t nobody got time for that, right? So stop comparing yourself to others, even if it is just for your own mental health.
Comparing yourself to other bloggers won’t help you accomplish YOUR goals.
At the beginning of each year, you write down a set of goals for your blog and person B writes down a set of goals for their blogs. And often, your goals and their goals don’t align! So why are you even comparing yourself and your goals with that of other bloggers? When you worry about the goals of Person B, you don’t have time to worry about your goals. And whilst Person B is working on rocking their blog and building their awesome brand, you are falling behind on working towards your goals. Here’s my advice: Stop worrying about what others are doing, and instead focus on what you are doing!
It’s all a bloody lie!!!
No, this post is not a lie! It’s the belief that we have to compare ourselves to others to stay motivated! This here, dear reader is a big fat lie!!! You absolutely do not need to compare yourself to others! Yes, you can be inspired by others, but you don’t have to compare yourself to them! Stop with this lie! Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we should support one another. We should create a support group for one another, where we can share our ideas, learn from others and grow!
Anyway, that’s my rant for the day! How do you feel about comparison? Good for motivation or bad for your brand? Let me know in the comments below.